“Haunting” is the latest dating trend where an ex continues interacting with you online—watching stories, liking posts, or commenting—after a breakup. Unlike ghosting, haunting keeps you on their radar without any face-to-face contact, which can be confusing and even distressing.
Proceed with caution
Relationship expert Damona Hoffman suggests that while some opt to block their ex, this should be a last resort. She encourages expressing feelings through words instead of cutting communication unless the behavior becomes threatening or crosses boundaries. Hoffman points out that haunting can stir emotions like nostalgia, anger, or confusion, especially if the person previously ghosted you. If haunting prevents you from moving on or triggers difficult emotions, blocking may be warranted. Conversely, confronting the ex and asking why they continue following you can lead to insight and growth.
Block, if you have no other choice
Intimacy expert Nikquan Lewis underscores the importance of setting a personal “communication code of conduct” regarding social media. While some find their ex’s passive online presence trivial, others may perceive it as invasive or emotionally disruptive. It is critical to look at this from a holistic point and decide on appropriate action only after deliberating it thoroughly.
To decide whether blocking is the right action, Lewis advises asking yourself key questions:
- Does it hinder your healing process? If seeing your ex’s interactions disrupts your emotional progress, blocking may help.
- Was your past relationship toxic? Protecting your peace is valid if the relationship brought harm.
- Is it affecting your current relationship? If haunting causes tension, it’s essential to set boundaries.
Ultimately, choosing to block or not is about prioritizing your mental health and peace. If haunting introduces negative emotions into your life, trust yourself to set boundaries and move forward. Reclaiming your online space can be a crucial step to closing old chapters and opening new ones. After all, what’s life without mental peace, right?
